The Sleep Anxiety Guide
You don’t have to choose between a loving connection and helping your child feel confident at bedtime. This guide gives you a step-by-step plan to help your child go to bed feeling happy and safe in their bed.
Many children experience anxiety around sleep as their imaginations grow and their need for reassurance increases.
When you’re ready to support them in a way that builds confidence, not fear, this is the guide for you.
A confident way to support bedtime worries
When sleep anxiety shows up, bedtime can start to feel pretty intense.
Maybe your child asks the same questions again and again.
Maybe they worry about being alone, the dark, or “something bad happening.”
Maybe you’d all like the worries to go away, but you just don’t feel confident in how to help them.
You’re not doing anything wrong, and you’re definitely not alone.
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• A clear explanation about how sleep anxiety can start and what keeps it going
• Gentle strategies to reduce reassurance-seeking
• Supportive language to use when anxiety rises
• Tools to help your child feel safe and calm in their own bed
• Guidance on building confidence and independence gradually - based on CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) principles
• Reassurance for you, so you know you’re doing the best job in a tricky situation
What you’ll learn inside this guide
This guide is ideal for parents of children aged 3–10 who:
• Feel anxious, worried, or unsettled at bedtime
• Ask lots of questions or need repeated reassurance
• Struggle with fears about being alone at night
• Delay bedtime through worry, tears, or stalling
• Want to support their child’s emotions while helping them to feel safe in their own bed
• Prefer a gentle, connection-based approach
Who is this guide for?
Why this guide actually works
This guide focuses on emotional safety and connection. Although the aim is to help your child feel confident and happy in their own bed, the plan won’t force this independence before they are ready. I’m not going to lie, it’s not a quick fix method and does take time and patience.
You’ll learn how to support your child’s worries while gradually helping them feel more confident settling to sleep on their own.
The methods are based on CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) principles, which is an evidence-based way of reducing anxieties.
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If you’d like a more hands-on approach
Some families prefer a personalised plan, especially when their child has been anxious for a while. If you’d like guidance tailored to your particular situation or a non-judgemental cheerleader to help you feel confident in your decisions, I’d love to help.
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Frequently Asked Questions
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This guide is designed for children aged 3–10. The strategies are gentle and adaptable, and can be adjusted depending on your child’s age, temperament, and emotional needs.
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Yes. This guide supports common bedtime worries such as fear of the dark, being alone, or worrying at night. It focuses on helping children feel safe and confident in their own bed.
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No. This is a gentle, emotionally supportive approach. There’s no “cry it out,” no ignoring fears, and no forcing independence before your child is ready. The focus is on calm, consistent support.
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I’m not going to lie - this can take a while. Depending on your child’s temperament, you can see improvements within about 3 weeks. But generally, I’d say it’s around 6 weeks that you start to see the big changes happen.
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The strategies in this guide are gentle and flexible and may feel helpful for many children. However, I don’t specialise in neurodivergent-specific sleep support. If your child has additional or complex needs, I recommend working with a practitioner who has specialist training in that area. Please reach out if you have any questions about this area and I can try to point you in the direction of someone who can help.
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There is a lot of overlap between my different guides. If you are a bit torn over which one would work best for you, please get in touch with an overview of the issues and I can help guide you to the one that would be most suitable.